Unequally Yoked NEVER Works, Part 4

When one is an unequally yoked marriage, the couple is not happy.  Because the two cannot walk together, they grow apart.  And the enemy uses the spiritually weaker/unsaved party to continuously try to keep the saved party-the one at least trying to be spiritual-down.  In the flesh.

What happens a lot of times is that women will invariably ‘stand by their man’ not only due to love, but also out of pride and religious deception…and fear.  A woman will realize that her marriage is over, the husband can be abusing her, humiliating her, not taking care of her or the kids, cheating on her, on drugs…the whole nine.  But ESPECIALLY in the CHURCH, a woman will stick to it.  She will fast, pray, rub oil on his shoes and pillow..all kinds of witchcraft and what not…all so that she can be spared the humiliation of a failed marriage.

This is what happened later on in the marriage of Bobby and Whitney.  She KNEW it was over, but to save face, because her religious upbringing had taught her she is to stick to her marriage vows NO MATTER WHAT, and because she didn’t want to have to admit to the public that she HAD married the wrong guy, she stayed in a marriage that was unhealthy.  She did drugs with her husband, to cope the pain of the failed marriage AND to have something to do with her husband, in attempts to be one with him.

When you are unequally yoked, home life, married life is miserable.  You may do things you wouldn’t normally do to cope with the pain and disappointment of the failing/failed marriage.  It doesn’t matter if you go to church/saved, highly anointed, in ministry or whatever.  When you try to stay and work it out, and pray that man thru-even if that man CHOOSES to not be saved and is NOT budging, or vice versa-then life is miserable.  You are two roommates living in the same home.

You may do things to ease the pain. Or you may be a workaholic or a ‘ministry-a-holic,’ you find reasons to find more work to do, or more ‘ministry’ to do.  Women throw themselves into keeping house or raising their kids…or even spend all their spare time at church or doing ministry, throw themselves into their  careers.  Or they seek solace in adulterous affairs, porn, drugs, alcohol…yet, they remain together.  ANYTHING so the spouses do not have to face the truth-that the marriage is over.  It was over before they ever said ‘I do.’

This is what happened with Whitney & Bobby.

We all know how the story ends with those two.  They divorce…and Whitney continues to spiral downwards.  She later on develops a relationship with ANOTHER ‘bad boy,’ actor/singer Ray J, who is several years her junior.  Another unequally yoked relationship.  Ray J in no way, shape or form was seeking the ‘peace that surpasses all understanding.’  As a matter of fact, he taped a sex video with Kim Kardashian.  He was just trying to break into the music scene to follow the footsteps of his famous sister, R & B artist Brandy.

Whitney stated in these videos she never drank when her and Bobby were together, just did drugs.  Yet, hours before her death, she had been drinking.  This indicates to me that she had picked up a demon from her ex husband Bobby…of alcoholism.  The drugs didn’t become enough.  Plus, doctors had to give her meds to go to sleep, to wake up…sort of to replace the cocaine and weed she did for years.

Whitney was NEVER healed from her unequally yoked marriage and physical and emotional abuse she suffered with Bobby.  She just sought solace in another troubling relationship, prescription drugs, alcohol and the revelry of her ‘fans.’

I want to also point out that in the video, she states that WHILE doing drugs, she would be listening to gospel and reading her bible.  It is said that hours before her death, she was doing the same thing: listening to John P. Kee.

Yet NONE of that was able to save her life.

A VERY sad and mocking ending to a beautiful, talented star…but a woman who fell for the trap of the enemy and entered into an unequally yoked union.

I want you, ladies and gents, to take a good long look at this.  If you get nothing else from these articles on Whitney and Bobby, walk away with the understanding that you CANNOT and MUST NOT be unequally yoked in marriage.

Understand that the devil DOES send mates, just as God does.  And their whole mission is to destroy YOU!

Do NOT take this lightly!

But take it as a warning.  Don’t marry lightly, harriedly, without weighing all the costs.  KNOW who you are marrying.  Seek GOD diligently about your mate-to-be.

Anybody can ‘act saved,’ until the wedding.

Then the mask comes off!

UNEQUALLY YOKED NEVER WORKS!!!!

You are better off staying unmarried than marrying someone who is not saved!

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Boaz Got You WHIPPED! Part 3

In Part 2,  I speak on Now that You Got Your Boaz, Now what???

What often happens when an enemy sends a mate is that you are unequally yoked.  It doesn’t become apparent until AFTER the wedding, sometimes WAY into the marriage.  The unsaved mate/unequal partner will start making attempts to sabotage any success or growth of their partner.  The enemy riles up jealousy, competition, strife, confusion and rejection in the unsaved mate/unequal partner.  These can manifest in a host of different ways, including violence, adultery, pornography, drug and alcohol abuse, or emotional, financial, spiritual or mental abuse inflicted upon and against the saved mate.

That unsaved partner will do everything in his/her own power to ‘bring down’ the saved mate to their level.  Often what happens when the saved mate is the wife and the unsaved is the husband, the wife acquiesces or submits to these demands and allows herself to ‘become one’ with the dysfunction and sin of the unsaved mate…all to keep the peace, or due to some religious, errant obligation to submit to her husband, as the bible says.  Somewhere the woman has heard that she is to do whatever her husband tells her to, even if it is sin and will endanger her own relationship with God.

Because the nature of a woman is to keep the peace, and because she loves her husband, she will do whatever he wants, she will start participating in activities that go against the Spirit of God IN HER to please her husband.  So that her and her husband will have more things in common and ‘enjoy’ their time together.

We know the Word says, ‘How can two walk together except they agree?’  The two become one flesh, and this is not just speaking of the sexual act.  The married couple literally become ONE.

When you got one saved and one unsaved in a marriage, there is a CONSTANT warring, particularly in the Spirit.  There is no walking together and there is constant warfare.  This is why many women trapped in an unequally yoked marriage go to church unhappy, many are abused in SOME way or fashion, and seek escape from the unhappiness and discord at home by developing spiritual relationships with other men in the church to make up for what their husbands are not.  This causes more friction in the already troubled, unequally yoked marriages.

Or vice versa…it can be the man seeks what he needs outside of the marriage…all in the ‘church’ setting.

Watch this video:

Whitney was physically and emotionally abused by Bobby.  She tried to get ‘the peace that surpasses all understanding.  She didn’t know how to fight the warfare and acqueisced.  She started using drugs to get rid of the pain of her failing marriage and the pressures of being a superstar.  She stayed with Bobby-as she admits-because ‘Bobby WAS her drug.’

I was amazed at that statement. But I realized this is what many women get whipped by their husbands.  No, I’m not talking about beat with a branch off a tree or a belt, but whipped in they get so ‘in love’ with their husbands-and possibly with the whole notion of being married-that they get ‘whipped.’

Being ‘whipped’ is a slang from the 90s meaning that someone is so in love with a person that they cannot see the TRUTH about that person.  A lot of times it is nothing more than lust…as in this case, Whitney says she was addicted to making love to her husband.  The enemy used Whitney’s natural feminine urges for love and companionship-as well as her desire for escapism from her pain-and embodied that in Bobby.

I said earlier that the enemy KNOWS what we like.  He has been studying us for a long time.  The enemy studied Whitney and knew what it would take, who it would take, to bring her down.

All those times Bobby was in and out of jail, abusing her, enabling her and accompanying her to do drugs, Whitney could not see the forest from the trees.  I remember that video from the picture I posted above:  Bobby had just been released from jail-again-and Whitney literally jumped on Bobby and was hugging and kissing him.  She was SO glad he was out of prison!

She was WHIPPED!

And her being whipped cost her…a lot.

Ladies, we can’t just allow our emotions and feelings to cloud our judgment.  We need to look at the situations around us rationally, and act in wisdom.  It’s not about following our hearts.  It’s about being led by the Spirit of God.

The fact of the matter is that Bobby was a plant from the enemy in Whitney’s life.  A weed in her garden…no pun intended.

We must learn from the mistakes of others.  I mean no disrespect to Whitney.  But this interview was given 3 years ago.  I am merely stating what WHITNEY herself told Oprah.

It behooves us all to learn from Whitney’s mistakes and glean much wisdom from them.