In Part 1 ‘When the Enemy Sends A Husband,’ I talked about the reality that the enemy sends mates. The whole agenda of these hell-sent mates are to annihilate and destroy!
The sad part is that most people who are sent mates from the enemy do not realize they are sent from the enemy until after they have said ‘I Do.’ The truth and reality of who that person is is blinded by what society perceives as ‘love.’ Others around the both of them see the issues, but most do not speak out on the issues BEFORE the wedding because they want to be happy for the engaged couple. They don’t want to appear to be ‘haters.’
But I believe that that part of the ceremony where the preacher says ‘if there is anyone who does not believe that these two people should not marry, speak now or forever hold your peace’ is there for a REASON. If more people would speak up at this point, they could possibly spare the two much drama in the future!
Anyway, in the following clip, Whitney pretty much admits that her and Bobby-as much as they ‘loved’ one another-were unequally yoked.
Whitney tells us in this video that Bobby was actually jealous of her success in her musical career. That inequity caused MUCH friction, tension and strife in an already strained marriage. I remember seeing Whitney Houston always on TV, declaring to the whole world that Bobby Brown was ‘the King of R & B!’ I would laugh out loud, as I’m sure many people did. We ALL knew that was NOT true! Bobby’s musical career was riddled with allegations of MANY children out of wedlock, drug addiction, many arrests and was tainted by his ‘bad-boy’ image.
Every time I saw her do that, I thought to myself, ‘What is WRONG with her? Is she that much in love that she believes that?’ She was trying to build up her man so he wouldn’t feel the brunt of his NON-success in his career, as he took a backseat in an attempt to be ‘supportive’ to his bigger-than-life wife.
The bottom line was that they were UNEQUALLY YOKED. Whitney Houston had her pick of ANY man in Hollywood before marrying Brown. Actors, comedians and millionaires…all who did not have a criminal record and a string of baby mamas littered all across the country.
Whitney grew up in church, was taught to stand by her man, at all costs. She knew right from wrong. But her heart won out over what she knew was right. Now she was stuck in a marriage that was not only unequally yoked, but would later prove to be dangerous.
The enemy here wanted to stunt the spiritual growth of Whitney. He had succeeded in that by giving her fame and fortune. By allowing millions to make an icon out of her, an idol.
Then he sealed the deal with sending a mate from hell.
The same thing happened to Juanita Bynum. She married a virtual unknown named Thomas Weeks. She tried to ‘stand by her man.’ She prayed and fasted to bring her man to his next level. She spent all HER money promoting Weeks and his ministry, financing any venture he so desired. She tried to play the good wife, because she, too, was raised to do so.
Ladies, we need to understand that even though many of us were ‘raised’ that way, that way was wrong. It was wrought out of religion, and religion for years has sought to oppress and control the Spirit. It is WRONG to tell women to stay in abusive marriages-whether they be physically, mentally, spiritually or financially abusive. It is WRONG to preach at women, commanding them to submit to men who are NOT their equal in ANY way. Whitney married ‘down.’ Bynum married ‘down.’ And look where it got them!
It is in our natures as women to nurture and try to grow things. And in error we see someone and think ‘Oh, he has promise. But he needs this or that…’ If you have to say ‘he needs this or that,’ he is NOT the one. You marrying him will be unequally yoked. PERIOD.
I don’t push the marriage thing these days; neither am I against marriage.
I AM for marriage…God’s way. In God’s timing. In God’s will.
Now that you got your Boaz, NOW WHAT?