Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse From Church Leaders

By Pastor Pam Sheppard of Pam Sheppard Ministry 

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In my phone sessions  with damaged sheep, a truth stirs in my spirit that is difficult to express. When I really listened to what was done to human beings by narcissistic church pastor and leaders, all I can say is that many victims within church membership  have  already been crucified and so they  should hopefully expect resurrection. Some reports of narcissistic spiritual abuse that manifested as the institutional church actually hurting God’s people   causes me to realize how much of the world is in the church system  and how dangerous it is to look back at Her.

Yet, we must look back in order to recover because we need to know what is it about ourselves that caused us to succumb to any sort of spiritual abuse in the first place. Even so, we also have to be careful HOW we look back. Anxiety or inner turmoil serves as a sign that we have not completely gotten over a particular thing. So when this happens, we need to retreat, build up strength in that area and confront it when we are better prepared. This is the path of deliverance coaching. We advance and retreat to fight another day.

If you are willing to do the intense work of deliverance and spiritual recovery, contact Pam Sheppard Ministries at 888-818-1117 or complete the contact form below:

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In my phone sessions  with damaged sheep, a truth stirs in my spirit that is difficult to express. When I really listened to what was done to human beings by narcissistic church pastor and leaders, all I can say is that many victims within church membership  have  already been crucified and so they  should hopefully expect resurrection. Some reports of narcissistic spiritual abuse that manifested as the institutional church actually hurting God’s people   causes me to realize how much of the world is in the church system  and how dangerous it is to look back at Her.

Yet, we must look back in order to recover because we need to know what is it about ourselves that caused us to succumb to any sort of spiritual abuse in the first place. Even so, we also have to be careful HOW we look back. Anxiety or inner turmoil serves as a sign that we have not completely gotten over a particular thing. So when this happens, we need to retreat, build up strength in that area and confront it when we are better prepared. This is the path of deliverance coaching. We advance and retreat to fight another day.

If you are willing to do the intense work of deliverance and spiritual recovery, contact Pam Sheppard Ministries at 888-818-1117 or complete the contact form below:

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Spiritual Covering Is A TRAP!

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By Pamela Sheppard

Spiritual covering is yet another doctrine of demons that puts God’s people in bondage by taking one scripture out of its natural context and forming a teaching that brainwashes and hoodwinks those who submit to it.

When people try to control you, you are going to react in one of a few ways. You are either going to give in and acquiesce, give up and pretend that “all is well, ” when deep down, you are really seething inside.  This is a dangerous reaction because your inner rage will eat away at your health.

Now if you are like me, you are going to resist. The bible says that rebellion is like the sin of witchcraft. True—-if it is God that you are rebelling against. However, if religious pretenders and hypocrites try to throw what they call a spiritual covering over you, rebellion is good, but running is even better!.

As a minister in an authoritarian bureaucracy ruled globally by just 12 bishops, I watched and experienced how the traditions of men made the word of God of none effect. In certain denominations and even in the charismatic movement, bishops rule the pastors under their authority like holier than thou puppet masters. In the denominations, the power and control of the Bishops lie in their ability to appoint pastors and fill pulpits. Any pastor in full time ministry is totally dependent upon whether or not the Bishop chooses to favor them with an appointment to a church  that will be lucrative enough to financially provide for himself and his family. In the non-denominations, What you have is a clique based upon popularity.  If the bishop is a mega preacher of 25,000 members or so, then the money must first flow to the bishop—the man or woman of God FIRST, with a slow trickle effect of money rolling down to the most obedient, the most compliant, those who suck up and kiss “royal behinds.”

The denominational  “spiritual covering” net entrapped me for 25 years. Since spiritual covering is really about money,  those who “cover,” desire to be paid by YOUR hard earned cash for their “blessing” that trickles down to you in slow, tediously slow  drops.  In my particular situation, I was not well liked by bishops because I had a full time secular career. As such, I could not be placed under any Bishop’s thumb in order to survive financially. So my punishment was that I was appointed to those churches  that could not afford to pay a full time pastor’s salary—churches that no pastor without a secular job could survive serving. In most cases in such a system, the pastors’ primary objective is to protect his own power base and therefore, their interactions with the Bishops are usually characterized by subservience, flattery, subtle manipulation and “out and out” lies.

The irony is that in the denominational set up,  the Bishops are dependent on the ministers they rule to advise them since the Bishops don’t usually live in the communities that they oversee. So a bishop  needs his ministers to tell him the truth. However, a Bishop’s ministerial advisors are so threatened by him financially speaking,  that one lie begets yet another lie and the entire leadership system operates on a foundation of lies, cover-ups and pretenses. With Satan being the father of lies, no wonder the devil has a seat in such a religious/political system.

Within a complex bureaucratic hierarchy as I have described, sin spreads like leaven from top leadership in a circular, downward fall, then in an upward spiral. As the root of such a system is rotten, the deception within charismatic, non-denominational systems spreads far beyond just a few pastors or a handful of ministries. Ministers and laypersons within a charismatic system alarmingly and systematically mimic the same key people. Leaders watch and imitate well-known leaders as they pass on the same false teachings.I personally have moved beyond correcting either system by any attempt on my part to fix it.

In my ministry, I work with associates.  My associates are my equals. Everyone of my associates is valued because  they are valuable.   They work with me and help me because the Holy Spirit has revealed to them that I am both a lover of truth and of freedom.  If somebody RULES over you in ministry, you need to know tha you are not serving the One who died to set the captives free, but rather you are serving false gods And, if you cannot recognize and admit to yourself that your beloved church or ministry, or pastor  is practicing, unbiblical and ungodly doctrines and practices, then you are definitely brainwashed and under the spell of “deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons” and these demonic lies are “seared in your own conscience as with a branding iron” (1 Tim. 4:1,2). And, that means you need deliverance to be set free from Satan’s bondage and deception. It also means you are deceived about who you are serving. You are not serving the true Jesus, but the Fake One, who is the master of idols — which is idolatry, which means you are an “idolater,” and idolaters do not inherit eternal life or have an inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ and God (Gal. 5:20,21; Eph. 5:5)!

So RUN from your captors and RUSH out of the arms of the Fake Jesus Sananda Immanuel into the arms of the True Jesus Christ of Nazareth, who died and was raised from the dead to set the captives FREE! “He whom the Son sets FREE is FREE INDEED!

Here is the deal. The bottom line. Anytime you come away from a corporate experience with demons attacking you, you need to “book.” To “book” is to hit the road Jack, and don’t cha come back no mo, no mo and no mo!  Sing along with the late Ray Charles and “hit the road, Jack, and don’t cha come back no mo, no mo, no mo, no mo!!. Hit the road Jack, and don’t cha come back no mo!!!!!”

What you say?”Yeh! Now sing it again before you submit yourself to their demons.

Sheppard’s Counseling Center provides training to ministers who have left the organized church, from 3 months, to 6 months, to a year in a unique deliverance mentoring model called Spiritual Empowerment Workshop or the SEW Program. Training is oral and by telephone  for those who are in full-time jobs. For others, training modules are written and  with video lessons, assignments, on the job training, OJT with pay, done on-line. Some remain with SCC and become affiliates and associates. Others go and do their own thing.

We don’t try to control or rule over anybody.  If you are interested, call 518-477-5759

The Spirit of Jezebel Is A Personality Flaw

THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL IS A PERSONALITY FLAW

Paul taught the Galatians that witchcraft  and idolatry are “works of the flesh.” A work of the flesh is simply a character flaw of the old sin nature BEFORE Christ that lingers on if the person does not submit him or herself to the cross. To submit to the cross is to allow the Holy Spirit to progressively break you in both your personality and your character traits.So what does this mean, exactly. Does it mean that demons are not involved in a “work of the flesh?” Absolutely not. Witchcraft and idolatry are demonic practices. What it DOES mean is that people who have witchcraft in them as a work of the flesh—a personality flaw— are more susceptible to demonic influence, particularly religious demons and devils.

I have witnessed too many manifestations of evil spirits in ALL of the works of the flesh, so clearly there are two definitions of witchcraft and idolatry. Where a work of the flesh is a personality type that is predisposed to demonic involvement, the actual act of witchcraft and idolatry are demonic practices. When demons are looking for “human workers” to implement their agenda, they target people who already have witchcraft and idolatry built into their persona as “a work of the flesh.”Along these lines, the witchcraft demon is attracted to a person with a soul that is predisposed to the three (3) “P”s of position, prestige and power. Those who wish to dominate, to acquire fame and prominence, can become a safe haven for the witchcraft/control demon.

In such cases, the captive’s own personality will be a secure place in which demons of a similar nature will be able to hide and secretly function. This is because no one will suspect that the captive’s ambitious striving for control and domination is demonic because the captive has continued to demonstrate over time a steady pattern that propels them to seek power. Consequently, everyone just assumes that the captive is simply being true to his nature or character and therefore, doesn’t have a demon. The witchcraft demon will also hide within weaker personalities.

For example, there are those who wear a facade of false humility, who appear to be very self-effacing and passive. They call themselves “helpful and tactful.” They court a person in leadership, pretending to be a supportive helper. Yet , deep within his or her soul is a striving to “be somebody.” I am reminded of the Bette Davis movie of the 50’s called “All About Eve.” Our generation calls them “suck ups” or “behind kissers/” They appear to idolize there leader when in fact, they want to replace the one they pretend to emulate.  People with this kind of soul will offer up many testimonies of their inadequacies and their lack of ambition, yet when confronted, they will show in their actions that they are not at all convinced of their own unworthiness.

In fact, when there is even a minor concern or question about their actions or motives in a particular situation, they will become extremely defensive and resentful. If others show a tendency to take their self-belittling attitude and recriminations seriously, a seething anger may erupt that is out of balance and extreme. For instance, while the so-called “humble” will proclaim their unworthiness, a witchcraft demon will cause them to make great demands for consideration and admiration from others. The witchcraft spirit will rise up and expose itself in these “low key” people, presenting a strong unwillingness to accept even the slightest degree of criticism.

You will find many people like this among professing Christians.  They are passive on the outside but inside, they are seething, ravenous wolves who will use a soft,  humble demeanor and manner as a weapon to bring others down.  Repressed anger and envy has opened passive-aggressive people to a religious demon. In such cases, passivity masquerades as humility or “niceness.”. The inner hostilities are hidden from view by a veneer of a pretended politeness, feigned fair play and an appearance of good fellowship.  This “front” is a coverup used in subtle ways to move against perceived enemies in an effort to shame others with their “nice” behavior.  The facade consists of pretenses, hidden fears and some genuine caring mixed in with an ability to make YOU look bad in comparison to THEM.

Here is a quote from “Faces of the Religious Demon:”

One of the many motives of a religious demon is “to kill the prophets of God.” Religious demons will seek those by nature who have a jealous, envious spirit, hostile and rebellious to all spiritual authority. Like a shark or a snake, these captives can be most cleverly vicious and dangerous, particularly to those who are called into the fivefold ministry.  For example, these captives will circle the lives of others within the congregation, looking for teachable, fleeceable, controllable disciples of his or her own. For those with a religious demon  like to birth disciples unto themselves, disciples that will eat a false doctrine from their tables. Toward this end, some of these captives will seek out others who are in rebellion, yet who are weak, wounded, or those who are already in conflict with their spiritual leaders authority.”

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The spirit of Jezebel is a personality flaw that religious demons find conducive to use to attack a man or a woman of God. Like Judas, their end is the way of destruction. The religious demon will ultimately destroy its host or hostess.

 

 

 

PROFILE OF A CONTROL FREAK Part 3

Control freaks are masked in Christian hypocrisy.

Normal strivings for power in a believer are motivated by a sincere desire to be used by God  to deliver those in  the kingdom of this world  so that they might enter  the kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth. What distinguishes normal inclinations from obsessions is that demonic striving for power is often rooted in fear, hatred and feelings of inferiority. A passive-aggressive control freak wears a phony mask.

 Let’s bring it down home to where we all live. Racism is a cultural factor that involves hatred and fear. . When the predominant culture is in fear of losing its power and even worse, becoming extinct, demons of fear, hatred and pride conjoin with the witchcraft demon to control, dominate and suppress those of another race or culture. Then there are those who feel insecure mentally and emotionally who strive for power as a means to protect themselves from anxiety and from a feeling of helplessness.

The  religious demon is also attracted to a soul that feels very insignificant. Those who have been consistently oppressed will develop a rigidity and an unbalanced “super strength” which makes them think and act as if they can master any situation in their own power. Such a person will pretend that he is leaning and trusting on the Lord’s power by spouting scripture like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, yet within his soul he considers any weakness as a disgrace and he is steeped in pride. For example, he judges other saints as being weak, when in reality, he himself feels weak and insignificant. This is fertile ground for demons and devils  because they  can use the captive to intimidate the weaker brethren and to cause the control freak to feel condemned.  When the control freak feels condemn, WATCH OUT FOLK! The ruling  entity  will  cause the control freak  to despise himself when he has fallen. When the control freak despises himself, EVERYBODY is a target!

The control freak will  demand to know every detail of even the most insignificant situations. When he or she  has not been informed of EVERYTHING, extreme agitation sets it which a passive-aggressive control freak will be skilled at hiding from others. People with this character flaw can appear to be extremely generous. No one may even notice his desire to dominate and control because the captive is so subtly manipulative. Usually in such cases, a lying demon is involved also. People who appear to be submissive and giving will surprise you with how manipulative they can be. For example, when you righteously confront them with issues that are important to YOU , they avoid the issue at hand by simply responding with counter accusations, whether they be true or not. All confrontation, no matter how small or insignificant, causes them to perceive you as THE ENEMY.

Secular psychoanalysts would agree that constant striving for superiority or “one upsmanship” is at the center of the narcissistic personality, forming a stronghold that is very difficult to shake or even to weaken.  The question to as is “What is at the root of the constant striving?” In some cases, it is an unconscious sense of inferiority. Such people are in a perpetual search for something that will make them feel more personally competent and they get a temporary satisfaction in dominating others by outshining them.

Elder Jones was of this sort.  A dark-skinned African-American, Elder Jones was born and raised in the segregated south.  Too many times did she expose the fact that she felt inferior because of her skin color.  So she compensated. In the denomination, Elder Jones  became the FIRST woman regional administrator in 150 years. So once she obtained this noteworthy position,   why would she unnecessarily place herself in competition with her immediate predecessor, and determine that she would outshine him? Why would she continue to try to outdo all of the ministers that she now had oversight power over? It made no logical sense.

 For example, a church lost its pastor in the middle of the year  and a temporary appointment was in order.  Elder Jones had 5 ministers available to her to pick from.  Did she select one of them?  No.  She selected herself, even though she already was pastoring a church when it is the normal policy for someone in her position to relinquish the role of pastor entirely.  So she became the pastor of not one church but two, also remained the regional administrator, with 10 other churches and pastors under her watch care.  Once she appointed herself pastor of the second church, the members passively  rebelled by not attending on Sunday mornings, a mistake on their part.  Elder Jones used her power as the right hand of the Bishop to recommend that this 100 year old church be closed and the Bishop acted upon her recommendation.  The church is NO MORE! 

Passive-aggressive people can be very dangerous in uncountable ways. The truth will set them free but the truth hurts them to much.  Pride causes people to not want to admit that they are suffering from feelings of inferiority that cause them to “lord it over” others.  This is a most serious situation.  Not only are these types at risk of perdition, when they obtain positions of power and authority, they are dangerous. Control freaks are particularly dangerous because they DO have a form of godliness because they behavior is eccessively polite, and they are very skilled at feigned poise in their strivings for position and power.  The central issue of a control freak is domination and control. Elder Jones strong desire for power is masked by her being “a good person.”  So she uses her good character to be in a position of unchallenged prominence and prestige. The dangerous element of the woman is that she feels herself to be surrounded on all sides by competition for the ascendency that she herself craves. As a result, her strong need to outshine or excel over others, to outsmart them, to make them subservient to her wishes play a crucial role in her control freak style. For example, every situation or interaction with her is viewed from the standpoint of “can I top his or her performance?” or “is this person trying to make ME look bad?  What can I do to protect myself?.”

Well she can cut your spiritual head off!

Today is my 30th anniversary as a minister.  Take my word for it. Churches are overrun with Elder Jones personality types, both male and female–people who need deliverance counseling.   If you are in their spiritual prison, the time to break out and escape to freedom  is NOW! Help is available at 518-477-5759.

PROFILE OF A CONTROL FREAK Part 2

Consider this real life case  of a control freak with a name change. This is a woman who once was my late  pastor’s wife back in the ’80s. In fact, it was under her husband that I was licensed to preach 30 years ago today, Oct. 25, 1981.   I’ve had the opportunity to study Sister Black at least 20 years.

Sister Black is a well known, beloved, influential  lay leader in her denomination for decades.  

 Much could be written about Sister Black.  Prior to his death, Rev. Black was in a constant but subtle battle with Sister Black to rule his own congregation in his own despotic way.  Rev. Black  did everything he could to block his humble acting wife  from taking over.  Sister Black was always the hurt one, portraying herself as suffering for the Lord,  by  not being understood by her coldblooded  husband. She fooled me for at least a decade, until I started seriously observing her. I could do so because we spent time together in Christian service and on a quasi-social level.

 Once Rev. Black  died, at the center of Sis. Black’s thoughts  was usually not the Lord Himself but her own spiritual journey.  Her priority in conversation is most often turned to  her newly appointed  pastor and his particular approach to leading “her” church and how the members have to seek counsel from “her” because of what the pastor is incapable of providing.  Since his appointment to Sis. Black’s church she and Rev. Johnson have been persistently battling each other over various church projects.

The warfare seems to be centered in a battle between new members and those who have been members prior to Rev. Johnson’s appointment.   For example, Sis. Black was co-chairing a project with another member and Rev. Johnson has been avoiding Sister Black and solely communicating with the other co-chair.  Now these are Sis Black’s exact words:  “Isn’t the Lord’s sense of humor so wonderful?  The co-chair fell and broke her leg and can no longer function in the job.  Now Rev, Johnson HAS to speak to ME bevause the other co-chair is out of commission.  Isn’t the Lord grand?”

If this is not an example of a neurotic control freak, then I don’t know what is.  I wonder if the sick thoughts to FORCE Rev. Johnson to speak with her directly did not cause the co-chair’s accicent.  Why?  Because Sis. Black sincerely believed that God broke the leg of one of His children so as to force Rev. Johnson to have to communicate solely with HER! This is a reprobate mind if I ever saw one yet Sis. black believes that she is a part of the remnant church.  Admittedly, her pastor DOES have his problems, but Sis. Black used her ecstatic, kundalini spirit type of experiences as a weapon to contend with him.  For example, she will appear to be completely consumed or “caught up” in the Holy Ghost—faling back and wailing loudly.  Others respond by jumping up from the pews to either restrain her or to hold her up to keep her from falling and hurting herself or those who may be sitting near her. 

One of her outstanding spiritual fits occurred as the service was being brought to a close.  While the congregation was singing the doxology, suddenly Sis. Black fell  “under the anointing.” In other words, she fell backwards into an euphoric state, a form of being slain in the spirit.  Most of the congregants left the sanctuary, but a group of 10 or more women stood by her and ministered to her for another 45 minutes.  Sis Black retorted, “Rev. Johnson didn’t even stick around to minister to me.  Well, too bad, we all got caught up in the glory cloud and we had ourselves another wonderful worship service, praise the Lord! Pastor just went into his office, slammed the door and sulked.” My question is,  “How was Sis. Black  even conscious or focused on what Rev. Johnson did if she was “so caught up in the spirit.”?!

The bottom line is that Sis.  Black  is a religious control freak that desires a pastor–any pastor— to humble himself to HER  so that she controls every aspect of church life. She had every opportunity to enter ministry herself, but the devil likes to use her to keep other pastors in bondage.  Her “opponent,” Rev. Johnson is one of the denomination’s most popular sermonizers, yet he is a homosexual, raising adopted  male children as a “single parent.”  The late Rev. Black was a cold, lifeless pastor who hated  bible study and who restrained anyone who seemed to be genuinely saved.  He was also an adulterer, almost understandable— living with a woman like Sis. Black.

 The visible church  has  several of these kinds of people in them. The true story of Sis. Black, Rev. Black and Rev. Johnson is typical in the church world where I served as a minister for 25 years.  Today-October 25-is my 30th year in ministry.   The good news is that the organized church is not the Body of Christ.  Therefore, if you desire to come out of the bondage of religion, you can do so.  The Lord will not work in the organized church in its present condition, so you need to commit yourself to become free. Judgment has come to the household of faith because God’s people are unable to repent.  Control freaks of this kind are completely out of touch with who they really are and therefore they can not even approximate normality because to their spiritual strangeness has been accepted by them to be normal. If you want to be set free to grow in Christ, then the phone lines are open at 518-477-5759.