Unequally Yoked NEVER Works, Part 4

When one is an unequally yoked marriage, the couple is not happy.  Because the two cannot walk together, they grow apart.  And the enemy uses the spiritually weaker/unsaved party to continuously try to keep the saved party-the one at least trying to be spiritual-down.  In the flesh.

What happens a lot of times is that women will invariably ‘stand by their man’ not only due to love, but also out of pride and religious deception…and fear.  A woman will realize that her marriage is over, the husband can be abusing her, humiliating her, not taking care of her or the kids, cheating on her, on drugs…the whole nine.  But ESPECIALLY in the CHURCH, a woman will stick to it.  She will fast, pray, rub oil on his shoes and pillow..all kinds of witchcraft and what not…all so that she can be spared the humiliation of a failed marriage.

This is what happened later on in the marriage of Bobby and Whitney.  She KNEW it was over, but to save face, because her religious upbringing had taught her she is to stick to her marriage vows NO MATTER WHAT, and because she didn’t want to have to admit to the public that she HAD married the wrong guy, she stayed in a marriage that was unhealthy.  She did drugs with her husband, to cope the pain of the failed marriage AND to have something to do with her husband, in attempts to be one with him.

When you are unequally yoked, home life, married life is miserable.  You may do things you wouldn’t normally do to cope with the pain and disappointment of the failing/failed marriage.  It doesn’t matter if you go to church/saved, highly anointed, in ministry or whatever.  When you try to stay and work it out, and pray that man thru-even if that man CHOOSES to not be saved and is NOT budging, or vice versa-then life is miserable.  You are two roommates living in the same home.

You may do things to ease the pain. Or you may be a workaholic or a ‘ministry-a-holic,’ you find reasons to find more work to do, or more ‘ministry’ to do.  Women throw themselves into keeping house or raising their kids…or even spend all their spare time at church or doing ministry, throw themselves into their  careers.  Or they seek solace in adulterous affairs, porn, drugs, alcohol…yet, they remain together.  ANYTHING so the spouses do not have to face the truth-that the marriage is over.  It was over before they ever said ‘I do.’

This is what happened with Whitney & Bobby.

We all know how the story ends with those two.  They divorce…and Whitney continues to spiral downwards.  She later on develops a relationship with ANOTHER ‘bad boy,’ actor/singer Ray J, who is several years her junior.  Another unequally yoked relationship.  Ray J in no way, shape or form was seeking the ‘peace that surpasses all understanding.’  As a matter of fact, he taped a sex video with Kim Kardashian.  He was just trying to break into the music scene to follow the footsteps of his famous sister, R & B artist Brandy.

Whitney stated in these videos she never drank when her and Bobby were together, just did drugs.  Yet, hours before her death, she had been drinking.  This indicates to me that she had picked up a demon from her ex husband Bobby…of alcoholism.  The drugs didn’t become enough.  Plus, doctors had to give her meds to go to sleep, to wake up…sort of to replace the cocaine and weed she did for years.

Whitney was NEVER healed from her unequally yoked marriage and physical and emotional abuse she suffered with Bobby.  She just sought solace in another troubling relationship, prescription drugs, alcohol and the revelry of her ‘fans.’

I want to also point out that in the video, she states that WHILE doing drugs, she would be listening to gospel and reading her bible.  It is said that hours before her death, she was doing the same thing: listening to John P. Kee.

Yet NONE of that was able to save her life.

A VERY sad and mocking ending to a beautiful, talented star…but a woman who fell for the trap of the enemy and entered into an unequally yoked union.

I want you, ladies and gents, to take a good long look at this.  If you get nothing else from these articles on Whitney and Bobby, walk away with the understanding that you CANNOT and MUST NOT be unequally yoked in marriage.

Understand that the devil DOES send mates, just as God does.  And their whole mission is to destroy YOU!

Do NOT take this lightly!

But take it as a warning.  Don’t marry lightly, harriedly, without weighing all the costs.  KNOW who you are marrying.  Seek GOD diligently about your mate-to-be.

Anybody can ‘act saved,’ until the wedding.

Then the mask comes off!


You are better off staying unmarried than marrying someone who is not saved!


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