In Part 2, I speak on Now that You Got Your Boaz, Now what???
What often happens when an enemy sends a mate is that you are unequally yoked. It doesn’t become apparent until AFTER the wedding, sometimes WAY into the marriage. The unsaved mate/unequal partner will start making attempts to sabotage any success or growth of their partner. The enemy riles up jealousy, competition, strife, confusion and rejection in the unsaved mate/unequal partner. These can manifest in a host of different ways, including violence, adultery, pornography, drug and alcohol abuse, or emotional, financial, spiritual or mental abuse inflicted upon and against the saved mate.
That unsaved partner will do everything in his/her own power to ‘bring down’ the saved mate to their level. Often what happens when the saved mate is the wife and the unsaved is the husband, the wife acquiesces or submits to these demands and allows herself to ‘become one’ with the dysfunction and sin of the unsaved mate…all to keep the peace, or due to some religious, errant obligation to submit to her husband, as the bible says. Somewhere the woman has heard that she is to do whatever her husband tells her to, even if it is sin and will endanger her own relationship with God.
Because the nature of a woman is to keep the peace, and because she loves her husband, she will do whatever he wants, she will start participating in activities that go against the Spirit of God IN HER to please her husband. So that her and her husband will have more things in common and ‘enjoy’ their time together.
We know the Word says, ‘How can two walk together except they agree?’ The two become one flesh, and this is not just speaking of the sexual act. The married couple literally become ONE.
When you got one saved and one unsaved in a marriage, there is a CONSTANT warring, particularly in the Spirit. There is no walking together and there is constant warfare. This is why many women trapped in an unequally yoked marriage go to church unhappy, many are abused in SOME way or fashion, and seek escape from the unhappiness and discord at home by developing spiritual relationships with other men in the church to make up for what their husbands are not. This causes more friction in the already troubled, unequally yoked marriages.
Or vice versa…it can be the man seeks what he needs outside of the marriage…all in the ‘church’ setting.
Watch this video:
Whitney was physically and emotionally abused by Bobby. She tried to get ‘the peace that surpasses all understanding. She didn’t know how to fight the warfare and acqueisced. She started using drugs to get rid of the pain of her failing marriage and the pressures of being a superstar. She stayed with Bobby-as she admits-because ‘Bobby WAS her drug.’
I was amazed at that statement. But I realized this is what many women get whipped by their husbands. No, I’m not talking about beat with a branch off a tree or a belt, but whipped in they get so ‘in love’ with their husbands-and possibly with the whole notion of being married-that they get ‘whipped.’
Being ‘whipped’ is a slang from the 90s meaning that someone is so in love with a person that they cannot see the TRUTH about that person. A lot of times it is nothing more than lust…as in this case, Whitney says she was addicted to making love to her husband. The enemy used Whitney’s natural feminine urges for love and companionship-as well as her desire for escapism from her pain-and embodied that in Bobby.
I said earlier that the enemy KNOWS what we like. He has been studying us for a long time. The enemy studied Whitney and knew what it would take, who it would take, to bring her down.
All those times Bobby was in and out of jail, abusing her, enabling her and accompanying her to do drugs, Whitney could not see the forest from the trees. I remember that video from the picture I posted above: Bobby had just been released from jail-again-and Whitney literally jumped on Bobby and was hugging and kissing him. She was SO glad he was out of prison!
She was WHIPPED!
And her being whipped cost her…a lot.
Ladies, we can’t just allow our emotions and feelings to cloud our judgment. We need to look at the situations around us rationally, and act in wisdom. It’s not about following our hearts. It’s about being led by the Spirit of God.
The fact of the matter is that Bobby was a plant from the enemy in Whitney’s life. A weed in her garden…no pun intended.
We must learn from the mistakes of others. I mean no disrespect to Whitney. But this interview was given 3 years ago. I am merely stating what WHITNEY herself told Oprah.
It behooves us all to learn from Whitney’s mistakes and glean much wisdom from them.